26 Nov, 2023
Protecting Our Most Precious: How to Set Up a Safe Home
Welcome to The Jews Next Dor and the second part of our Child Safety Month episode.
In part 1, we discussed how parents can create a relationship where children will be willing to share and prevent child abuse. If you haven't listened to it yet, I strongly recommend checking it out - https://youtu.be/oLF_Lspbrk4
In the second part of the Child Safety Month episode, we are discussing what we can do to make our home a safe space for our children.
In the first segment, we are talking to Dr. Michael Salomon, a Ph.D. and the author of The Abuse in the Jewish Community. He is famous for his work in raising awareness on the prevention of the treatment of child sexual abuse in the Orthodox Jewish community.
In the second segment, we will hear an insightful and eye-opening story of a sexual abuse survivor - Kim Siegel, a mother, and a science and humanities teacher.
And in third segment we’ll dive into the topic with Dr. Akiva Perlman, an international speaker and educator on topics of abuse, addiction, trauma and Tamar Perlman, a licensed clinical psychologist who lectures on many different topics, including parenting, marriage, emotion, regulation, and self-actualization.
Tune in to hear more on this extremely important topic!
03:36 Introduction to Dr. Michael Salomon
04:44 Is abuse in the family prevalent?
11:42 How do people react to child abuse information?
14:17 What to tell children to prevent abuse in the family?
18:19 Situational awareness and systems of supervision
22:44 It’s parents’ responsibility to monitor, believe and react
24:15 The final message
26:30 Introduction to Kim Siegel
27:34 Kim’s sexual abuse experience
31:30 Kim’s relationship with her parents and teachers
34:02 The reaction of parents to her abuse
39:48 The absence of normal boundaries
42:53 What would she do differently?
46:35 Relationships with her father and brother
49:14 Setting up a healthy home
51:46 Introduction to Dr. Akiva and Dr. Tamar Perlman
52:46 Working with abuse survivors
57:30 Shame is an internalization of an abusive experience
1:02:35 Something bad happened to me vs. I am bad as a person
1:04:03 Abusers can sense vulnerability and lack of support
1:06:45 Bringing light into this space
1:09:49 Parenting and setting up a safe home
1:14:18 Respect children’s experiences and validate their feelings
1:16:22 Creating security, safety, and being present for your children
1:20:03 Teaching children this is a complex word
1:22:02 The feeling of shame and confusion
1:26:54 How to react when a child speaks about the abuse
1:29:53 Guidelines to set up a safe environment
1:32:28 Why are men uncomfortable with this topic?
1:37:46 Even in darkness, there is a healing
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