Welcome to an episode of The Jews Next Dor! Our gest today is Rav Yaakov Neuburger. Rav Yaakov is Rosh Yeshiva at Yeshiva University and Rabbi at Congregation Beth Abraham. We are talking about how to vacation and still show compassion and solidarity in times of crisis. Rav Yaakov provides advice on adjusting vacation plans to support Israelis facing hardship. We discuss simple ways to connect kids to the situation through simple creative projects. Offer your kids a refreshing change from typical vacations while sending an important message of solidarity. Tune in to hear more! 00:00 Introduction 01:17 How do we approach our vacations this year? 05:18 Showing support to Jews in Israel 08:56 What should a vacation look like? 11:22 We are not being deprived, we are contributing 13:33 Posting on social media 14:22 Share with kids your thoughts and feelings 17:22 Focus on what you should not what you shouldn’t be doing Here is the original email referenced in the episode: Just over a month ago - a very long month ago - we took time on Shabbos morning to reflect on this year’s mid winter yeshiva break, which will likely, and appropriately, look much different from those of previous years. Unfortunately, we are now much closer to winter break but not at all distanced from the daily grinding tragic loss of chayalim, and the enormous network of profound pain that comes with each loss and injury. At that time we referred to Moshe Rabbeinu’s censure of the tribes who, as he understood it, wanted to settle with their families “outside” the mainland, and not take part in the military acquisition of the land: האחיכם יבואו למלחמה ואתם תשבו פה Do you think your brothers should head out to battle as you stay settled here?! Those words and Torah’s mandate to be “בעול נושא“, to partner in the pain and responsibilities of others, have successfully inspired and driven a remarkable communal response of incessant davening, increased learning, over-the-top generosity, creative kindness, and effective lobbying. Most importantly, our appreciation of each other and of Jews with whom we disagree, our faith and our resolve to grow have all been strengthened. * * * Nevertheless, we would feel the sting of Moshe Rabbeinu’s rebuke if yeshiva break finds us soaking up the sun in some faraway place, or enjoying the rarefied amenities of an upscale resort while our brothers and sisters endure the longest days and nights that one can dare imagine. Surely, as a people who takes pride in our oneness, we cannot be unmindful of friends, cousins and siblings in Eretz Yisrael who can only relive and savor the most recent parting moments of their closest. While it would perhaps be ideal to bring all of our families to join in the war effort in Israel - and you may want to consider the OU group in formation - that is well beyond most of our means, and presents the nearly insurmountable challenge of finding appropriate supportive roles for our children. Clearly, to impose on ourselves and our families unstructured days of boredom and restlessness is unwise, wasteful and unhealthy. Truth be told, our lives often include an unhealthy level of stress, distance and distraction which we cannot easily disentangle in our homes, no matter how large and comfortable they may be. For some, the getaway helps to balance an otherwise precarious family structure. For others, these days bring grandparents and grandchildren together and strengthen family bonds. To be sure, the specific circumstances - the stresses and the pressures, the needs and opportunities, the ages and personalities - differ from family to family. Nevertheless, the decision-making process can be relatively uniform in our community and this will help us strengthen each other. Here are some of the “drivers” or decision-makers that come to my mind, which I hope you will consider as you plan for the month ahead: ● If you are at a stage in life that affords you the privilege of spending hours studying Torah, then please maximize your time in a local bais hamedrash wherever you may be. The added zechus of learning even as we are pulled in another direction is expected of us, as it is one of the most powerful contributions we can personally make to insure the safety of our chayalim. ● Moreover, this year the “getaway” should be just that. Let's try to assess our needs and goals honestly, and employ our self-awareness to calibrate how far we truly need to travel, and which amenities and activities are truly necessary. I am sure that the very exercise will be blessed with siyata dishmaya and be impactful well beyond this specific decision. ● Similarly, I pray that Hashem will give us the language to explain to our children why this year is different, endowing them the sense of pride that comes from empathy, rather than the anxiety from which we seek to protect them. ● Perhaps the “social media test” will be helpful: What sort of reception would my vacation picture receive when posted to a family chat which includes my nephew stationed outside of Gaza or Kiryat Shemona, as well as his mother, wife and children? How would I feel if my vacation picture went out as part of a promotional collage which can easily reach random families in Israel? * * * Allow me to close this “big ask” with a poem that Peshi and I discovered recently, though it is quite well known in Israel. Penned during wartime by the renowned Israeli poet Chaim Gouri, a hero of the War of Independence, it coined an evocative response to the most natural Israeli greeting, and gives expression to what we all carry in our hearts: ?! ָמה ְׁשלֹומָך ׁשֹואלים אֹותי ברחֹוב ֲאנָשים למינֵיהם ְׁשלֹומי כשלֹום עמי ֲאנִי משיב להם, וְָאז פֹולטים הם אנָחה קצָרה ְּכשתפים לעת צָרה. How are you - ma shlomcha? They ask me in the street- People of all stripes; I am only as well as my people I respond to them And then they release a short sigh As partners in difficult times. Praying that will be blessed with the strength, togetherness and endurance that these times require and that we will soon partner in the celebration of genuine peace and its many blessings, Follow us! Gen Aleph Website - genaleph.org Twitter - twitter.com/yairmenchel IG - instagram.com/parentingthejewsnextdor YT - https://www.youtube.com/@TheJewsNextDor/

Welcome to another episode of The Jews Next Dor! Our guest today is Rabbi Dr. Ari Berman, the fifth president of Yeshiva University. Dr. Berman has grounded Yeshiva University in its Core Torah Values and laid the foundation for its next great era. Under his leadership, the University has introduced over 20 new graduate degrees in emerging fields such as cybersecurity, health, and STEM and established several important academic centers.   Dr. Berman lectures worldwide and writes extensively on contemporary Jewish thought, modern philosophy, and trends in higher education. He is widely published in outlets such as Forbes, Newsweek, and the Wall Street Journal. In his recently published book “The Final Exam: Letters to Our Students”, he presents the core Torah values through the analyses of foundational Jewish texts, the perspectives of his own teachers, and stories of his journey through and to Yeshiva University.   Time Stamps: [00:00] Introduction [01:08] Rabbi Dr. Ari Berman and the Jewish Center [05:40] Rabbi Berman’s parents and his upbringing [08:06] The balance between being a rabbi and being a father [14:06] The expectations of going to Yeshiva University [16:29] How to transmit our worldview to our children – Rabbi Berman’s book [20:45] The biggest challenge our generation is facing right now [24:15] The importance of role modeling and love [28:42] The challenges of living in a consumer society [32:22] Giving over your love for Torah as a parent [34:45] The final message to parents   This episode has been sponsored by jKaraoke, a great way to have good kosher family fun singing all of your favorite Jewish songs with karaoke. You can subscribe monthly from just $4.99 or yearly from $49.99, and in honour of their US launch, jKaraoke are now offering their best deal yet! Grab a yearly subscription plus a Karaoke Kit for just $99.99 plus use coupon JewsNextDor for an additional 10% off!! Check out jKaraoke.com today and let the fun begin!

In this podcast episode featuring Slovie Jungreis-Wolff, the importance of social bias, alignment in parent-child relationships, and the challenges of modern parenting are explored. Slovie discusses her new book's themes of purposeful parenting, gratitude, and unity. She highlights the significance of trust, genuine connections, and technology's role in child development. The episode touches on the missing aspects in today's parenting, the roles of fathers and mothers in Yiddishkeit, and techniques for nurturing leadership skills. The takeaway emphasizes creating compassionate, purpose-driven homes that nurture each child's potential and inspire the future generation through patient and dedicated parenting. [0:00] Unmasking the Significance of Social Bias [1:32] Igniting Creativity: The Spark Behind This Book [7:28] Behind the Scenes: Tackling the Toughest Chapter [13:37] Unveiling the Vacation Paradox: Where's the Fun? [16:26] Bridging the Gap: What's Missing in Today's World [22:00] Unlocking Happy Homes: The Ultimate Keychain [28:28] Loyalty: The Unseen Glue Binding Relationships [31:06] Peek into the Future: Decoding Your Children's Actions [34:41] Parental Roles Deconstructed: Father vs. Mother [39:52] Forging Future Leaders: Nurturing Your Children's Leadership Skills Special thanks to Mosaica Press for sponsoring this episode. You can purchase this book, and check out the other amazing books by Mosaica Press at https://mosaicapress.com/product/the-soul-of-parenting

How can parents help children to appreciate and really tap into the 3 weeks, the 9 days, and ultimately, Tisha B’av? How can parents model mourning when it is difficult for themselves to tap into the mourning?How can parents engage in discussions with their children about loss and create meaningful moments of reflection? Rabbi Larry Rothwachs and Sally Shatzkes answer these questions and much more in this week's episode of the Jews Next Dor, in a special 9 days edition episode. In this podcast, the focus is on guiding children in understanding and processing the loss and mourning of Tisha B'Av. Sally Shatzkes, a playwright and drama therapist at Yeshiva of Flatbush, and Performing Arts Department Head of Camp Morasha, shares her approach to crafting annual plays for Tisha B'Av at the camp. The plays serve as a means for campers to contemplate loss and their roots, moving beyond mere tears. Rabbi Rothwachs explains how these plays build connections between the present and the past, enabling campers to connect with the significance of the Temple's destruction. The conversation delves into how parents can engage in discussions with their children about loss and Jewish history, fostering creative outlets for expression. Rather than having children mourn continuously for 24 hours, the focus is on creating meaningful moments of reflection. It is stressed that children are capable of handling conversations about loss, but parents must first delve into their own feelings of loss to effectively guide their children. Overall, the podcast advocates for using the 9 Days as a time of introspection and spiritual growth, encouraging adults to seize the opportunity to support children in understanding and processing grief while connecting to their heritage. A special thank you to Camp Morasha for sponsoring this episode, and their continuous support of Jewish Education, a central part of their mission. Episode Time Stamps: 0:00 - Tisha B'Av should not be about sad things like the Holocaust or motorcycle accidents 3:08 - Captivating Content: Creating Relevance for Every Audience 9:52 - The Enchanting Evolution: A New Play Every Year! 12:30 - Mirror Magic: What Lies Beyond the Reflection? 18:28- Education Redefined: Sally's Secrets to Engaging Parental Benefits 21:36 - Time Travelers Unite: Embracing History without Losing Touch 28:13 - The Ultimate Answer Revealed! Unlocking Life's Hidden Secrets 31:11- Little Minds, Big Conversations: Navigating Loss with Kids 37:58 - Child's Play: How Kids Triumph over Loss 41:17 - Bereavement Reimagined: Three Weeks of Empowerment 46:05 - Portal to the Past: Bringing History Alive in the Present 49:11 - Beyond Ordinary: Where Past, Present, and Future Collide

How do we inspiring our children to develop a relationship with Hashem? How do we fight apathy In children? How to help children connect In Tefillah? Welcome to another episode of The Jews Next Dor! Today we have a great opportunity to talk to another amazing guest - Charlie Harary.   Charlie Harary is an inspiring and very influential speaker who speaks for schools, universities, and institutions on a variety of topics and to audiences of various sizes and affiliations. He has created dozens of videos that have received worldwide attention reaching hundreds of thousands of people in over 15 countries.   Mr. Harary is also the CEO of H3 Capital LLC, a private equity company based in New York. He is an Associate Professor of Management and Entrepreneurship at the Syms School of Business at Yeshiva University. He is also a Senior Lecturer for the Orthodox Union, Aish Hatorah and NCSY.   Additionally, he is an active community leader. He is the founder and president of Milvado Inc., an organization that develops innovative methods to teach spirituality in relevant and modern ways. He is a member of the Executive Board of the OU as well as the Founding Chairman of its Young Leadership Cabinet. He is also a member of the Conference of Young Jewish Presidents.   Time Stamps: [00:00] How did Charlie got involved with Jewish education? [04:49] The confidence comes from HaShem [09:11] Being present as a father [13:27] Taking care of your family first [18:30] The absence from the house because of work [22:16] How does having a father in the spotlight affect children? [25:34] Children and their relationship with HaShem [30:37] Parents’ expectations and the importance of self-awareness [34:25] Everybody has their own path and timing [37:36] If love is conditioned, it’s not real love [39:38] Feeling lucky for getting a Jewish education [45:05] Biggest parenting regrets [47:35] How to fight apathy in kids? [53:15] How to help children connect to Tefillah?     This episode is sponsored by Jump Into Shape For most of us, work and family demands take priority over our own health. Building a fitness habit takes effort and commitment. At times we all need some good old-fashioned competition and nudging to get going. That’s where Jump Into Shape comes in. Jump Into Shape is an online fitness program with your needs in mind.  With close to 30 classes each week and over 1,400 videos on demand, varying in length from 12 minutes to 30, members can get the workout they need from wherever they are. Jump Into Shape maintains a modest environment and offer numerous women’s only classes. Classes include weighted jump rope, bodyweight, abs, stretch, pilates kickboxing, weights and much more. Plus, Jump Into Shape holds all their members accountable to their fitness goals with a personal touch. There are frequent contests, daily stats, and weekly leaderboards that create a community of healthy competitive and fun. And, the best part - Jump Into Shape offers a FREE 30 days, including the use of 2 weighted jump ropes that retail for $129 and an exercise mat. The FREE 30 days includes unlimited access to live and on-demand classes. Don’t wait: Sign up today at www.jumpintoshape.fun/freemonth

How to stay calm and control your feelings as a parent? How to teach your children to control their feelings? What are the techniques to rewire children’s brains for desirable behavior? Welcome to another episode of The Jews Next Dor! We are so pleased to have Mrs. Sarah Chana Radcliffe as our guest today. She is a registered member of the College of Psychologists of Ontario, practicing marriage, parenting, and individual counseling for over 40 years. Mrs. Radcliffe is the author of “No More Ticks”, “Raise Your Kids Without Raising Your Voice”, “Better Behavior Now”, “The Fear Fix”, “Harmony at Home”, and 6 other books on family life and emotional well-being. She is also a weekly columnist and international lecturer, presenting keynotes and workshops on family life and personal stress management. She is the creator of “Daily Parenting Posts” email lists and offers parenting education on her Instagram and Facebook pages. [00:00] How did Sarah got involved with parenting? [01:47] How to provide your kids with the best start in life? [03:41] Managing anger is key to preventing harm [07:26] How to teach kids to control their feelings? [11:13] Express what you want from a child in a calm, short, and specific way [15:20] Two times rule and presenting consequences [17:57] Techniques to wire the child’s brain to cooperation [21:10] Learning positive behavior with rapid wiring of the brain [26:04] How to get a child out of fight-or-flight mode? [27:57] Marriage is a parenting tool [30:33] What should parents do when they are angry? [33:20] Bach flower remedies [38:19] Low self-esteem in children and energy-based techniques [44:00] What to do when a child shuts down? [45:48] Anxiety in children This episode has been sponsored by jKaraoke, a great way to have good kosher family fun singing all of your favorite Jewish songs with karaoke. You can subscribe monthly from just $4.99 or yearly from $49.99, and in honour of their US launch, jKaraoke are now offering their best deal yet! Grab a yearly subscription plus a Karaoke Kit for just $99.99 plus use coupon JewsNextDor for an additional 10% off!! Check out jKaraoke.com today and let the fun begin!

What does one do if their child is going off the derech? Why is a good attachment with children so important? How to raise strong and resilient children in this day and age? What are the pillars of the core sense of self? Our guest today is Rabbi Shimon Russell, a psychotherapist and a world authority on the challenges of “At-Risk” teens and young adults. His expertise is in the areas of marriage, parenting, education, adolescents, and treatment of unresolved early childhood trauma. He is the author of an amazing book “Raising a Loving Family”, a practical down-to-earth guidance created to help parents navigate the challenges of raising children in today’s turbulent world, which won gold for this year's Benjamin Franklin Award in Psychology. [00:00] What inspired Rabbi Russell to get into the parenting area [06:45] Tough parenting of the post-holocaust era and its consequences [13:24] Equalization of status between children and adults [15:53] Technology made children independent too early [18:28] Adults should create a reality where children feel safe and secure [20:33] Seeing and recognizing the uniqueness of the child [27:05] Soothing and focusing on good attachment [34:42] The role of a parent is to provide resilience [38:25] Setting limits – structure, rules, and discipline [44:24] Two pillars of a core sense of self [52:23] Parents and teachers must be good examples [55:08] Why do kids sometimes go off? [58:38] Parents must overcome their own egos and fight for their child [1:05:25] We have to go back to grassroots *** This episode has been sponsored by jKaraoke, a great way to have good kosher family fun singing all of your favorite Jewish songs with karaoke. You can subscribe monthly from just $4.99 or yearly from $49.99, and in honour of their US launch, jKaraoke are now offering their best deal yet! Grab a yearly subscription plus a Karaoke Kit for just $99.99 plus use coupon JewsNextDor for an additional 10% off!! Check out jKaraoke.com today and let the fun begin!

How does a parent know when their child is ready for sleepaway camp? How can parent’s teach their children the importance of boundaries in a camp? What are the life lessons a child can learn at summer camp?  Welcome to another episode of The Jews Next Dor! This one of our special episodes where we have an opportunity to talk about pre camp, wherein parents can learn how to best prepare their children for a summer camp.  We sat down with the incredibly talented and creative Rabbi Natan Farber, the director of Camp Dina and the Director of Student Activities at DRS High School for Boys.  00:00- 03:15 How does a parent know when their child is ready for sleepaway camp?  3:15-07:28 The lessons that these kids learn in sleepaway camp.  (10:58) The importance of boundaries in camp.  (16:56) The importance of hiring people who are caring and loving in the appropriate way.  (19:39) What do you recommend in terms of shabbos food? Do you allow packages?  (22:22) Do you have phone calls and camp like friday phone calls?  (28:45) How to deal with children who are homesick.  32:15) What are some of the most common reasons kids are unhappy?  (35:05) The importance of focusing on the personality of the student.  (38:34) The more confident you are in yourself, the easier it is to shut down bullies.  (43:33) What are the life lessons learned at summer camp?  (46:55) How does a parent prepare their child for taking medication?  (50:29) The difference between helicoptering or bulldozing to remove an obstacle.  ****  This episode has been sponsored by jKaraoke, a great way to have good kosher family fun singing all of your favorite Jewish songs with karaoke. You can subscribe monthly from just $4.99 or yearly from $49.99, and in honour of their US launch, jKaraoke are now offering their best deal yet! Grab a yearly subscription plus a Karaoke Kit for just $99.99 plus use coupon JewsNextDor for an additional 10% off!! Check out jKaraoke.com today and let the fun begin!

What are our primary parenting goals? How to understand children better? How much do we influence children’s behavior? Welcome to another episode of The Jews Next Dor! We are so excited to talk to Rabbi Gavriel Friedman, an amazing teacher and motivational speaker who has spent the last decade studying and teaching in various Yeshivot throughout Jerusalem. He is currently teaching at Aish HaTorah Jerusalem, where his lectures highlight the entire gamut of Aish programs, including the Discovery Seminar, Jerusalem Fellowships, Executive Learning Center, etc. We are talking about teaching and parenting goals, having empathy and understanding children, and fixing your own problems before you fix others. 01:02 One thing to change in the Jewish education system 03:32 Four things to check when a child misbehaves 05:03 What is our goal as a parent or a teacher? 11:50 Fix yourself before you fix others 13:15 Put yourself in other people’s shoes 18:23 How to practically work on being a better teacher or a parent? 20:55 Preparation is everything 21:48 Relax and allow children to have struggles 23:14 Parents that want to live through their children *** This episode has been sponsored by jKaraoke, a great way to have good kosher family fun singing all of your favorite Jewish songs with karaoke. You can subscribe monthly from just $4.99 or yearly from $49.99, and in honour of their US launch, jKaraoke are now offering their best deal yet! Grab a yearly subscription plus a Karaoke Kit for just $99.99 plus use coupon JewsNextDor for an additional 10% off!! Check out jKaraoke.com today and let the fun begin!

How does a parent bring out a child's inner convictions? What is the most important goal of a parent? How to be a good parent and a good role model to your child? How to help your child develop a relationship with Hashem? Welcome to another episode of The Jews Next Dor! We have the real pleasure to talk to Rav Ahron Lopiansky about bringing our children to their full potential and the best parenting practices to achieve that goal. Harav Ahron Lopiansky is Rosh Yeshiva of the Yeshiva Gedola of Greater Washington. In addition to giving daily shiurim at the Yeshiva, Rav Lopiansky is sought after as an international lecturer and an accomplished author. His knowledge of the widest array of topics in both Limudei Kodesh and Limudei Chol makes his shiurim all the more inspiring and fascinating. Rav Lopiansky has written a number of seforim in both Hebrew and English as well as a Siddur mefurash. 00:00 Growing up and having a great parenting example 05:04 Letting children find their own way 08:06 The goal of a parent is to bring a child’s potential into reality 15:58 How to help a child willingly accept laws and restrictions 19:50 How to help a child develop a relationship with Hashem 21:35 How to help a child commit to Torah 28:00 Which battles are worth fighting? 32:16 Disciplining a child while maintaining a positive relationship 33:54 Teaching Torah to kids of different ages 36:48 What to consider when choosing a school for your child? 40:01 How to prevent raising spoiled and entitled children? 44:46 How to develop patience as a parent? 47:26 The most important parenting goal 48:52 How to combat apathy? 55:12 The final message *** This episode has been sponsored by jKaraoke, a great way to have good kosher family fun singing all of your favorite Jewish songs with karaoke. You can subscribe monthly from just $4.99 or yearly from $49.99, and in honour of their US launch, jKaraoke are now offering their best deal yet! Grab a yearly subscription plus a Karaoke Kit for just $99.99 plus use coupon JewsNextDor for an additional 10% off!! Check out jKaraoke.com today and let the fun begin!